The Power of Praise: Why Encouragement Matters for Your Kids

Raising confident children starts with the words we speak. According to Natalie Nicholls, founder of PLECS Learning, praise plays a key role. 

Key Points

• When encouraging your children, focus on their efforts and progression, rather than just on their results. 
• Encouragement and praise strengthens your relationship with your child. When you notice the good things they do, they feel seen and valued.
• Your words shape your child’s inner world. When you choose encouragement, you’re building their belief in themselves, one sentence at a time.

“Encouragement is the fuel our kids need,” says Natalie. “When we recognise their efforts, they grow in confidence and resilience.”

Praise effort, not just outcome

Natalie encourages parents to focus on the process, not the result. “Say things like, ‘You worked really hard on that,’ instead of just ‘Good job,’” she explains. “It teaches kids that effort matters more than being perfect.”

This shift helps children develop what psychologists call a “growth mindset.” In other words, they learn that abilities grow through persistence.

Be specific and genuine

Not all praise is created equal. Natalie says generic praise can lose its impact.

“It’s more powerful to be specific,” she advises. “Tell your child exactly what they did well. That way, they know you mean it.”

For example, rather than saying “You’re smart,” try “You came up with a really clever way to solve that problem.”

Build connection through praise

Encouragement also strengthens your relationship with your child. “When you notice the good things they do, they feel seen and valued,” says Natalie. “It helps them feel safe and loved.”

This emotional connection is vital. Children who feel secure are more likely to take healthy risks and bounce back from failure.

It’s never too late to start

Worried you’ve missed the boat? Natalie says it’s never too late.

“Whether your child is three or thirteen, your words still matter,” she says. “Start today by catching them doing something right.”

Even small moments of praise can have a big impact over time.

Your words shape your child’s inner world.

When you choose encouragement, you’re building their belief in themselves, one sentence at a time.

Article supplied with thanks to Sonshine.

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